John wanted to forgive, he just didn’t know how. He believed that forgiveness was the right and Godly thing to do. He discussed forgiveness frequently in his church. He quoted the Lords Prayer often, “…forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us.”
Despite this, John still felt the burning anger, the hurt and betrayal of his wife’s affair. When asked, he would say that he had forgiven her. But deep in his heart, during his private moments of honesty, he could still feel all the emotions, and none of them felt like forgiveness.
"Emerging adulthood is a life era that takes place at a unique point in time, and the exploration that is so common during this time is culturally shaped. The search for faith is central to this emerging adulthood, although fraught with misdirection and confusion."
"For a long time, I thought that I (a licensed mental health professional) wasn’t one of them (theologians). I was interested in information that would actually help people—and at one point in time that didn’t include theology. Today I am one who is encouraging other Christian mental health professionals to take their theological foundations seriously."
"...experience on its own isn’t much more satisfying than declarative knowledge as a path to wisdom. Both lead to a form of wisdom, but not the deep wisdom that seems possible in Christian community."
Traumatic events can be likened to earthquakes that sometimes open up crevasses deep down into those core beliefs, values, and ways of coping that formed us as children. Spiritual and pastoral care can help people identify and explore these embedded theologies that surface in trauma.
Can gratitude really make you happier? How do the extraordinary claims regarding the power and promise of gratitude fare under the scrutiny of a scientific lens? Can gratitude live up to such claims?
Here are 5 scientifically tested ways that anyone can develop a more grateful character, and experience greater well-being.